We in the ski racing community take our sport pretty darned seriously. We are driven by our passion for ski racing and our profound desire to help young racers achieve their goals. But sometimes that seriousness can shift from a healthy commitment to a loss of perspective.

This past weekend, I saw 8-year-olds crying after they didn’t get a medal in an intrasquad race for the ski team my daughters are on. I have seen coaches, driven by their own need to succeed, focus their racers too much on results. And I’ve seen parents angry at their children after races for failing to live up to their outsized expectations. In all three cases, the racers, coaches, and parents entered what I call the “too zone,” in which they take ski racing far too seriously.

Yet, the recent deaths of Bryce Astle and Ronnie Berlack should quickly pull all of us back from the “too zone.” When young people lose their lives in ski racing, it is a bracing slap in the face about why we are involved in this sport and a reminder about what is really important (and it’s not the results!).

I didn’t know Bryce, but he was obviously an outstanding young ski racer and, based on accounts from my Utah friends, a really good guy too. I did know Ronnie pretty well because he basically grew up at Burke Mountain Academy where, as an alumnus and sport psychologist, I have visited and worked with the athletes for years. At my many talks to the Burke athletes, Ronnie was always in the front row taking notes and asking questions, hungry to learn about anything that might make him faster. He was also a genuinely nice person with a kindness and gentleness that you don’t often see these days among young people but not surprising given his parents, Steve and Cindy. I also knew Steve well. More than 15 years ago, he sold his tech company and moved his family to Burke to pursue his passion for coaching ski racers. If it was related to ski racing, Steve loved to talk about it. That same passion for our sport was evident in Ronnie.

It’s difficult to expect racers to not throw themselves into chasing their ski racing dreams. It’s also equally hard for coaches and parents not to want so badly for their athletes to succeed. Yet, in this ‘take too serious’ world of youth sports we live in, it always helps to regain a healthy perspective on why racers, coaches, and parents do what they do.

For racers, there is the satisfaction of mastery, the thrill of competition, the camaraderie of teammates and competitors, and the opportunities for travel.

For coaches, there is the appreciation for the immensely positive impact they can have on their racers as athletes and, more importantly, as people.

For parents, there is the recognition that World Cup or Olympic success is a long shot at best and that isn’t the reason their children should ski race. Rather, their children participate in a brutal sport that tests them physically, psychologically, and emotionally on a daily basis. Ski racing provides young people with life lessons, such as ownership, confidence, persistence, resilience, the ability to handle pressure, overcoming failure and disappointment. The list goes on of characteristics and skills that will serve them so well throughout life.

The results are just icing on the cake.

For all of us, there is the awareness that life can be so fragile sometimes. Yet to live life safely, or expect our children to, is to live half a life that lacks meaning, fulfillment, and joy. Only by living on the edge where, sadly, there are risks, can life be fully embraced and enjoyed.

So, let’s honor Bryce and Ronnie not for the fast ski racers that they were, but for the qualities that made them so fast (and such good people too): passion, commitment, courage, optimism, hard work, focus, respect, and decency.

And let’s honor them by keeping ski racing in perspective as a marvelous part of life, but not life itself.

The next time you’re nervous about a race, frustrated with your performance, or disappointed in your athletes’ results, remember Ronnie and Bryce and be grateful that we just have the opportunity to be a part of this crazy, sometimes scary, and always wonderful sport.

Finally, though there can be no easy solace for the Berlack and Astle families, I hope there is some very small amount of comfort in knowing that Ronnie and Bryce died doing two things that meant so much to them. First, challenging themselves in some really demanding conditions. Second, pursuing their dreams of becoming world-class ski racers.

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Jim Taylor
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- Jim Taylor, Ph.D., competed internationally while skiing for Burke Mountain Academy, Middlebury College, and the University of Colorado. Over the last 30 years, he has worked with the U.S. and Japanese Ski Teams, many World Cup and Olympic racers, and most of the leading junior race programs in the U.S. and Canada. He is the creator of the Prime Ski Racing series of online courses and the author of Train Your Mind for Athletic Success: Mental Preparation to Achieve Your Sports Goals. To learn more or to contact Jim, visit drjimtaylor.com
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